There are often seasons of life in which we feel confused, numb, disoriented and unsettled. I think that is a normal part of evolving within a broken world, where our souls subconsciously know we were created for something very different than this. There are a million nuances of influence, but I believe the greatest impact comes from the connections and attachments around us (or lack thereof). We are shaped by how our souls are connected to the people around us, and part of our human journey is to learn how to live authentically in a dangerous world.
Your wholeness and healing are not dependent upon another person’s participation nor his or her approval.
And you may have to make the hard choice of stepping toward healing and wholeness without them. For whatever reason, they have declined your invitation to collaborate on taking the steps necessary to change the trajectory of the relationship… and the current trajectory is toxic, destructive, and slowly leading toward death – both physically and on a soul level. You don’t want to be on that path anymore. And so, you step, alone, toward something different, wiser, healthier…
Solitude is very different than “alone.” It implies a sense of integrity, like the integrity of a building that has been solidly constructed. It also implies a resolute steadfastness, like the resolve of running a marathon to the finish. There is purpose, direction, and intension. And this is the foundation of how to show up authentically in the world… which is the most vital element for being seen and known, and thus connected to. The flip of that is that there is no potential for true, healthy connection and attachment where there is hiding and façade. You cannot attach to deception. And people cannot connect to you if you are not being real. This doesn’t mean you have to walk around around totally exposed, because you ARE in a dangerous world. But, there is a space to be courageous, like an undercover agent in a war zone – trained, skilled, on mission, and trusting the One who gave you the mission.
There are a million reasons why you might be looking at doing sessions individually. You might be single and unattached, but in a great season of life to figure some stuff out. Maybe you are feeling lost, alone, confused, and just need someone to help you find a sense of direction. You might be dating or married, and are dealing with triggers from old baggage and trauma that keep getting tapped into and disruptive to your life. Whatever the reason, figuring out how you want to show up in the world is best foundation for building a life you love participating in.